The mother in law recieved a 30 day notice to move out. I am not stupid, I know its a combination of things. The manager of the complex has been asking me every couple of months for the last couple of years if she can move from two bedroom apartment to one bedroom apartment. The manager of the complex knew she was one person, why two bedrooms when she has people wanting two bedroom apartments with families etc. I kept saying it would be too stressful for her, to move again. I would say she has the bedroom furniture in both rooms so what if she has a guest bedroom. There have been complaints against her just walking into apartments without knocking, my next door neighbor even told me this himself. I have been told by another person she does it to certain residences. Her neighbors keep complaining she is bugging them. People are complaining and telling the manager they are going to call the police. While I know there is some truth to some of the comments I don't know which are made up just to support the agena.
So the mother in law is moving in. We have told her she has alzheimers disease but she just acts like she didn't hear it. We have shown her the bedroom which she will be moving into only two minutes later not remembering it and wants to see it again. We have been trying to prepare her reminding her she is moving in but in her head she thinks its just an apartment trade.
One day the smallest child told her she has to move in cause she bothers her neighbors.
"I don't have neighbors!" Yes you do grandma and you bug them! so matter of factly. The spouse and I looked at each other with mouths open not realizing the little one hear these conversations. I removed my child from the mother in law as not to upset her further.
The children have anxiety over grandma moving in. I have to be stern with them. Nothing is changing for you. I am loosing my room and my space not you. Everyone has a bed but Mom so get over yourself. I tell them to think beyond themselves they have all their things, Mom has to give up all of her furniture and things for a sofa. The spouse keeps asking how I am doing with it all.
Whatever! Its not the first time in my life I had to sleep on a sofa. Its not the first time in my life I didn't have a place for my belongings and everything had to be put away.
Half a dozen times over the course of my life, I have learned its temporiary situation. Sometimes the temporiary situation is longer then others. It could be worse, I could have no sofa to sleep and have to sleep on the carpet, or in a van both I have done in my life as well. Its all about perspective and experience and the bottom line of family.
The mother in law is getting worse all the time. She even asked last week if dinosaurs are still alive. We asked her if she was serious in the question about Dinosaurs only for her to say yes she didn't know.
She has become affraid of the dark. Been wanting someone to escort her home as soon as she thinks its getting darker. Dark won't actually come for another hour or two. She needed to be escorted to her apartment 30 second walk away she said she has forgotten how to get there.
After 20 minutes she forgetts she has eaten. If there is any kind of snacks near where she sits all day, she hides getting into the bags. She does it sneaky like, when I tell her she can have the item, she denies she is getting into it even though she is chewing. If a person stops by for a moment then leave she says good night, its just after lunch. If she happens to leave after her lunch with us we have to go to her apartment to get her . She has been answering the door in her underwear , the children have been telling me and even I have seen it. This isn't like her but her sense of time is gone, so she thinks its bedtime.
Over the weekend we were at a hamburger joint, she had that look, that familiar old look the father in law had so many times. Mouth slightly open constantly, the look of dispare and anger as we walked from inside to outside the noise was too much for her. The spouse was inside and every 30 seconds for several minutes she asked if her son was ordering food. Yes he is inside ordering food. What is taking my son so long with the food. He is in line and then they have to cook it. Then she would put her hands under her glasses over her eyes and head bowed, only to go in circles again. She finally stopped when friend of the family came to the table outside with us.
I am having a difficult time finding a hospital or facility that takes insurance. Things have changed in the last four years. Its not as easy for me to do as it was for the father in law.
We are going to have too put special locks inside the doors, just as it was nessicary for the father in law. Oh well the entire family locked in the house at night, everyone should be sleeping so its not big deal. Just like what parents would do for a toddler to insure they don't leave the front door without knowledge, same thing!
